Everyone feels stress on a daily basis. EVERYONE. Rather is internal or external. From the daily grind of work, bills, deadlines, to an unbalanced relationship. Stress is often the key source to ruining relationships. It has a toxic effect that often times takes the form of blame, impacts intimacy, or worst.
“Stress is an emotional and physiological response to thinking that an event, condition, or situation is [terrible] and that no good can come from [it],” says Dr. Mantell. The trick is to adopt more positive frameworks for difficult situations. Try to remind yourself that you’ll get through it, that there may even be a good reason a certain stressor has occurred—and at worst, it’s only one bad event.
The good news is if you can see signs, you can improve your relationship.
#1. Your Irritable
If you perceive everything your partner says as a slight or get miffed extra easily, stress may be a factor. The longer stress lasts, the more likely we are to feel grumpy or argumentative and lash out.
Give yourself time to acknowledge the root cause of your stress and frustration. Avoid the immediate outburst. Prioritize and make a commitment to resolve the issues. For example, if it is stress from work, make a rule to limit the conversations about work at home.
#2 She Can Be The Victim Not Problem
When we’re chronically stressed, we’re more likely to perceive even the best relationship in a negative light. We’re also unlikely to realize that stress is factoring into that perception. Placing the blame solely on her is draining and simply unfair. Sometimes he or she will be too overworked to help you as effectively as you’d like, and vice versa.
If you really care about her ask for help. Don’t try to solve every damn problem in one day. Set goals together on what you both want to accomplish.
#3 Not Enough Time
If you can devote hours of your day watching videos and working for some company. Then you gave yourself time. Time is the biggest causes of stress in the relationship. She wants more, you want more time. You want to do what you want and she wants to do something else.
Compromise for mutual time and be in the moment. That doesn’t mean go out with her and stay on your phone. Be in the moment. Schedule time to relax together and set rules that are acceptable to both parties.