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The Biggest Social Media Mistake That Is Hurting Your Relationship

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With the endless stream of social media options, nearly every woman either has a Facebook, Twitter, or Instagram account.  With all the information handed to us via online accounts, it’s hard not to look.  Needless to say, most people have indulged in a little Facebook stalking of a potential partner or ex-girlfriend.  While many say it’s a harmless activity, this may not be the case.

The dating scene can be tough to navigate and a little help from her accounts may seem like a good idea, but too much can be unhealthy for both you and your budding relationship.  To help convince you why, here are a few reasons you should stop browsing her social accounts.

You’ll Give The Wrong Impression On A Date

It’s very easy to accidentally reveal the fact that you have stalked her online profile. Usually by asking or talking about information you otherwise wouldn’t know. Women already don’t like men who come on too strong and if you already know her birthday and what she did last night that can REALLY turn her off.

You Start To Date A Fantasy

When posting online, most girls can over-hype what actually happened. It makes for a better story. However, if her social media is the only source of information about her, then you’ll be roped into an illusion. This will hurt your potential relationship with her due to the fact that she wouldn’t be able to live up to a fantasy version of herself.

You Become Overly Attached

The more information that’s known about someone, the more attached you can get.  If you know more about her than she does you than the risk of having deeper feelings for her in a shorter amount of time increases.  Sadly if she doesn’t feel the same way, or the relationship ends, you may have a hard time letting go or moving on.

No one’s saying to stop looking at her Instagram feed or other accounts altogether.  However, if you find yourself constantly checking up on her, it’s time to take a step back.  Instead of browsing her accounts, use the time to talk with her directly.  Try calling her, or shooting her a text.  In the long run, a healthy line of communication will be more beneficial, and more fun.

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What Not To Text Your Ex

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You and your woman decide to part ways. The spark is gone, but you leave the relationship on “good” terms. It’s understandable the doubts cross your mind, did you make the right call, should you have fought a little harder to keep her?  You still have some of the things and want to use it as an “excuse” to talk to her.

Whatever the reason you have for texting your ex you have to keep some rules in mind if you don’t want to appear desperate and heartbroken.

Ten things to never text to your ex:

1.  One word text. “Hi” or “Yo”. Be direct with your reason for contacting her. Leaving a one-word text could leave you waiting for a response because she is waiting on more context behind the sudden text.

2. Sex text. You haven’t seen her in a month. You don’t know her situation, nor do you want her to think that is all you want from and the total worth of your relationship. Avoid the Favre text move, unless you have rekindled your relationship. If not you can have a bitter ex exposing you on social media.

3. Hulk rants. If your upset, go to the gym and work it off. Don’t send her hateful messages about the breakup or jealous messages because she moved on. If she hasn’t responded to your text get the hint and move on.

4. Drunk texts. If your ex is on your mind before you go drinking, give you one of friends instructions to take the phone once you have reached your limit. You may find yourself with sending out an apology text next day.

5.  The flood texts. “Why didn’t you text me back?” “Did you get my message?” “I HIT YOU UP 10X” Send one text. Allow her time to respond to you, if she doesn’t enjoy the single life until you find someone else.

6. Relationship talk. In the words of Andre 3000 “Spaceships don’t come with rearview mirrors”  meaning leave the past in the past. Don’t reminisce with her over a text message. If the conversations are progressive and positive. Calling and talking about your relationship is more personable versus sending her an 8-page text.

7. Desperate apologies and pleading. Do not try to win back your ex by begging over text. “Come on man”  you’re better than that.

8.  Stalker text. Stop trolling her social network pages. You and her are no longer together which means you should be out of her social circles.  So never text her about an event she was at or who was in the picture with her. It just makes you appear jealous and is not a good look.

9. Emotional text. “I still love you”  Pause and think about before you press send. You separated for a reason and being overly emotional can open a door you don’t want to be opened. When in doubt, don’t press send. Read the message, let it stay as a draft for couple hours. After you have waited and your head is clear press send or delete.

10. The buyback text. Don’t try to win her over, but saying you buy something for her. It is never worth to buy someone’s emotions. It leads to a road that is hard to sustain and will eventually create an empty feeling.

But when in doubt, don’t text just clear your head before you press send.

 

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Escaping The Friend Zone

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You find yourself stuck in between a rock and hard place. You want to take the next in your relationship, but the problem is she your friend. You ignored all of your friends who told you to stay away from the friend zone. But you didn’t listen, now you are stuck with your emotions.

Escaping the friend zone can be like trying to escape a black hole, o yeah that’s right nothing escapes a black hole. What is the friend zone really, women classify you either in the “friend” “bestie”  something close to a ”boyfriend” with no intimacy category. Women rarely re-categorize you once you have accepted the particular role.

Maybe the friend zone you’re in is more like the Phantom Zone. There is still some type of hope to escape. Check out our tips on move the next level.

Be Honest With Yourself

It is not as simple as I know her better than anyone. Not damn she’s too good for that dude. I deserve to be with her. That’s all ego and none of those reasons are valid.

First, before you think about her be honest with yourself. Is she really the person you need to be in a relationship with? Is your friendship with her worth losing?

 

Treat Her Like A Woman You Want To Date

Stop treating her like one of the guys or like her brother. I know you may think, that’s what has separated you from the other guys that are chasing her.

That could be how you moved into the friend zone. You want to show her how you treat women that you are interested in. Start off small being a gentleman, holding the door open for her when both of you are out.

Don’t treat her like ex-boyfriend, she is not with him for a reason

Ask Her Out for A Date

The journey of getting out of the friend zone begins. Ask her out for a date; if she becomes hesitant at first then ask her out for a non-date. Maybe taking a walk in the park or doing things you usually do as friends. From this, you may eventually convince her to go out on a romantic date with you. If you wanted to escape the stressing friend zone, you need to let her feel and notice your romantic feelings.

However, things typically need to take an intimate turn during the first few dates or it is very likely that they never will. You may be seeing signs of friend zone because she believes that you are not brave enough to move things to the next level or that you are really not attracted to her

Take A Step Back

If you want a girl to daydream about you, do not let yourself be treated like her boyfriend. It may stink to have yourself in this kind of situation. Especially, if you knew deep inside that you really like her. If you want to capture her attention and let her feel the incompleteness due to your absence, stop hanging out with her or calling her.

The thought of winning your friend’s heart by staying on her side at all times do not really work. The more you are acting as a boyfriend, the more she will treat you like an older brother. So do not let your friend treat you as if you are her bf not unless you already are.

Change Something About Yourself

Familiarity breeds contempt. Well, in the case of friends, it may not exactly be contempt, but shaking up something about yourself may cause a “wow” moment in her and stir up romantic feelings.

Make positive changes to yourself that will make her see you in a new light (being friends, you should have some idea of what she thinks is positive). A new haircut or a new wardrobe could catch her eye. Or by displaying a more confident attitude around her, it might force her to rethink whether you’re in the ”friend” or ”boyfriend” category.

Exercise some common sense and subtlety, though. If she says she likes a new band, don’t rush out and buy all their albums, merchandise and tickets to their next gig — that just comes across as pathetic.

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Why Your Handle Is Ruining Dating For You

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Attracting women on social networks takes more than posting pics. You may be losing potential dates simply based on your handle alone.

SexyGuy25? TallRunner12? Both handles feature a flaw that could hurt their users’ chances of scoring a date as much as a crappy profile photo, finds a new review study from British and American researchers.

But it’s not the mistake you might think. Weirdly enough, screen names that begin with letters from the second half of the alphabet perform much worse than those beginning with letters from the first half, the study concludes.

Why? People have a built-in bias for things that are “first,” says study coauthor Khalid Khan, M.D., of Barts and the London School of Medicine. From company names—Apple, Amazon—to educational success, Khan says names that begin with letters from the top half of the alphabet are viewed more favorably. There’s even research showing people with “A” names have more success in school and in business. (The name is just one part of The Anatomy of the Perfect CEO.)

“Perhaps we subconsciously give higher value to things that appear to be at the top of the pile,” Khan says. “The higher you are, the better.” He says a screen name with a later letter isn’t a death sentence. It just hurts your odds.

Four Effective Tips:

1. Focus On Your Type

Before you create a name, look through women’s profiles and write down the screen names of those you find attractive. If you notice common themes—like most of the names mention exercise activities—coming up with a similar name will help your odds (e.g., “Fit&Fun,” Khan offers).

2. Be Smart And Witty

Women are drawn to screen names that indicate intelligence, such as “cultured” or “artsy.”

3. Leave Out Negative Words

When it comes to your name, leave out words that have negative associations—words like “mad” or “bug.”

4. Keep It Simple

In your headline message, long or complicated words are bad. They don’t make you seem smart; they make a woman skip over you, the study shows. Short, simple words and messages are more attractive.

VIA: Menshealth.com

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