You find yourself stuck in between a rock and hard place. You want to take the next in your relationship, but the problem is she your friend. You ignored all of your friends who told you to stay away from the friend zone. But you didn’t listen, now you are stuck with your emotions.
Escaping the friend zone can be like trying to escape a black hole, o yeah that’s right nothing escapes a black hole. What is the friend zone really, women classify you either in the “friend” “bestie” something close to a ”boyfriend” with no intimacy category. Women rarely re-categorize you once you have accepted the particular role.
Maybe the friend zone you’re in is more like the Phantom Zone. There is still some type of hope to escape. Check out our tips on move the next level.
Be Honest With Yourself
It is not as simple as I know her better than anyone. Not damn she’s too good for that dude. I deserve to be with her. That’s all ego and none of those reasons are valid.
First, before you think about her be honest with yourself. Is she really the person you need to be in a relationship with? Is your friendship with her worth losing?
Treat Her Like A Woman You Want To Date
Stop treating her like one of the guys or like her brother. I know you may think, that’s what has separated you from the other guys that are chasing her.
That could be how you moved into the friend zone. You want to show her how you treat women that you are interested in. Start off small being a gentleman, holding the door open for her when both of you are out.
Don’t treat her like ex-boyfriend, she is not with him for a reason
Ask Her Out for A Date
The journey of getting out of the friend zone begins. Ask her out for a date; if she becomes hesitant at first then ask her out for a non-date. Maybe taking a walk in the park or doing things you usually do as friends. From this, you may eventually convince her to go out on a romantic date with you. If you wanted to escape the stressing friend zone, you need to let her feel and notice your romantic feelings.
However, things typically need to take an intimate turn during the first few dates or it is very likely that they never will. You may be seeing signs of friend zone because she believes that you are not brave enough to move things to the next level or that you are really not attracted to her
Take A Step Back
If you want a girl to daydream about you, do not let yourself be treated like her boyfriend. It may stink to have yourself in this kind of situation. Especially, if you knew deep inside that you really like her. If you want to capture her attention and let her feel the incompleteness due to your absence, stop hanging out with her or calling her.
The thought of winning your friend’s heart by staying on her side at all times do not really work. The more you are acting as a boyfriend, the more she will treat you like an older brother. So do not let your friend treat you as if you are her bf not unless you already are.
Change Something About Yourself
Familiarity breeds contempt. Well, in the case of friends, it may not exactly be contempt, but shaking up something about yourself may cause a “wow” moment in her and stir up romantic feelings.
Make positive changes to yourself that will make her see you in a new light (being friends, you should have some idea of what she thinks is positive). A new haircut or a new wardrobe could catch her eye. Or by displaying a more confident attitude around her, it might force her to rethink whether you’re in the ”friend” or ”boyfriend” category.
Exercise some common sense and subtlety, though. If she says she likes a new band, don’t rush out and buy all their albums, merchandise and tickets to their next gig — that just comes across as pathetic.